This is the most common question that I hear asked in our twins club. The consensus from the unicorns (unicorns are parents of twins that have survived longer than you have so far) is that it doesn’t get easier, it just gets different. Although it might be the truth, I never find this answer to be helpful or encouraging. In my modest 2 years of raising twins, these are a few of the points at which I did feel that things got a little easier, and if nothing else, a lot more fun.
When they transition out of Rock n Plays and sleep in their cribs
For those first few weeks when they sleep beside your bed, it’s hard to get any solid sleep. Every little movement they make startles your new mommy reflexes. Once they move into their room and their cribs (for us this was around 3 months), everyone started to get longer stretches of uninterrupted sleep.
When they can sit up
I think of this phase as when they’re no longer like a bug stuck on their back. It feels like all of a sudden their eyes open and they see the world for the first time. Their coordination improves and they can play with toys for longer periods of time.
When they start solids
When they don’t require as much milk
The experts say that milk is the primary source of nutrition for their first year of life. The whole first year, it starts to feel like the world revolves around milk. I felt that things were a lot easier when we could expand their sources of nutrition. In other words, they feel more like humans that eat normal meals and want to explore new foods. This means that restaurants can be fun experiences all together.
When they can communicate
Even the most basic forms of communication ‘yes’, ‘no’, and ‘more’ can make life much easier. You may not want to hear ‘more’ every single time C is for Cookie ends, but it’s much better than being perplexed at what they want.
When they transition to 1 nap
When the boys were taking 2 naps per day, we were tied to the house. By the time they would wake up and eat, it was almost time for their next nap. When they went down to 1 nap (this is how we made the transition to 1 nap), it opened up the morning and afternoon for adventures. All of a sudden we could rejoin society and have fun outside the house for many hours at a time.
When you can go stroller-free
This is a big one. I can tell you the exact date that we reached this milestone. 22 months of age. I took them alone to Dunkin’ Donuts without a stoller, and when we safely returned to the car I felt like I had won the Superbowl. Within a week we were doing all of our outings without a stroller.
Improved mobility and coordination
Just kidding. That doesn’t make anything easier. 🙂